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I didn't really think this topic had an appropriate subforum but whatever I just need to get this out. How the HELL are you expected to get a girl who's even marginally interested in painting and playing with those pretty pretty toys when any time you walk by a gaming store you see knot of 10 year olds bickering over the rules.
I'd like to know where they get enough disposable income to collect for this game, they obviously dont have jobs. Go play Yugioh or something. It's bad enough we're playing with toy soldiers, I refuse to play against someone who jabs them at me and yells, "PEW-PEW-PEW!"
Ahh whatever, ranting is fun.
Well, to begin with, you'll need to approach the topic and then stick to it. If you start talking about the hobby, and then start complaining about it, you're going to get nowhere. Like this one time I was driving back out to DC from Wisconsin and I needed to take a nap. I was only 5 hours or so out of DC, but I was exhausted. I paid $80 to sleep in a scary Super 8 motel for about 5 hours.
You play your game, I'll play mine.
well you can't help picking them up and saying PEW-PEW-PEW.
and as for convincing the GF to play i think there are very few girls who even put up with there boyfriends doing it, let alone acturly join in... maybe i just dont meet the right girls ...
it really just depends on what the GF is like. if she pretty open minded and supportive, she would probably put up with you playing and maybe try playing herself. however, if you got one of those GF who thinks your wierd or something for playing warhammer, then you'll have no chance getting her to play.
My wife has never shown any interest in playing or collecting so I may be groping here but this is my thought. If you want your GF to play the best way might be to just show her the hobby. When she comes over or whatever have your stuff out and be painting or messing with it. This might start a conversation or interest. But never try to get her to play if she is not interested, that will be very counter productive. If she is interested she will most likely bring it up with you anyway if you have ever talked to her about it. And on the annoying kid thing. I have never had a hobby that didn't have the annoying players in it. It comes with the territory. Like jerks in Highschool or frustrating people at work. It should be expected.
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I'm starting to play again after a 10 year break and am trying to get the wife interested. The best tip - Don't bombard new people with rules. Conversation at my place on the weekend -
- How do you play this game ?
- My guy has to roll 2 or better on a dice to shoot your guy. Your guy then has to roll a 5 or a 6 to jump out the way or he's dead.
- Then why is it so complicated ?
- This guy is really bad at shooting so he has to roll a 4 or better to shoot. This other guy has really strong armour so if he rolls 2 or better after I shoot him, it just bounces off.
- And your guys can move slightly faster than my guys
Let her observe a casual game or two then find something she can identify with. It may be an army, a particular unit, the strategy etc. Find one thing and build on it. My kid wasn't interested much until I told her Harlequins were like dancing circus clowns that cuts the **** out of anyone if they get close enough. Now she fields a small sqaud with my mate's Eldar when we play. Approach it like you're trying to talk her into a threesome.
Over the last 3 years I've had two girlfriends marginally interested in warhammer and another one who was more obsessed than I am, so I'm lucky. The ones who were a little interested saw my minis sitting around after I had painted them at first. At the time I had Night Goblins (first army, oh the nostalgia) and one said they were adorable, I was a little emasuclated at seeing my vicious, green, menacing minions called cute and cuddly, but it worked out because she started asking me about them and she got really interested in them, though nothing ever really came out of it, she just didn't think I was totally nerdy. The second lady saw me reading the books, then asked me about the game. At the time I played Blood Angels exclusively, and she said she liked the SoB (she was a bit of a feminist, but thats why I liked her) and she bought a small box of six. We played now and then, but that didn't last long. Recently I was seeing a girl who LOVED Warhammer, especially the Vampire Counts and Wood Elves (I explained this in the Conversion forum) and shes still into it. We're still friends and all, and I'm still helping her build an army, so even if we're not still together its the same concept.
Essentially, if your lady is into the whole "Fantasy" genre, she might like it, or at least think its neat. Most girls are supportive enough to at least tolerate it, and the good ones will even come with you to your local shop/pit and watch you play and give you advice (some things you don't see until someone else tells you). I'd say talk about it. At least you can end the discussion by saying you brought it up because you care for her and respect her enough to talk with her about something thats important to you, and that never fails. Hope that helps.
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I just let her read the BGB and she decided she wanted to play
Tell her what the game is... How it's played.
Don't go into detail. If you can't explain it in less than 5 minutes, then you have a problem.
Tell her that you think she might enjoy it & you'd love it if she dropped by next time you & the guys are playing.
Assuming she drops by for a session, do NOT bother her about it. let her watch or ask questions. Do NOT offer any information about the game tht you aren't specifically asked about.
next time you see her after that game, ask her if it is something she might be interested in.
If not, let it drop & get over it.
If she IS, then let her -at her OWN pace- start dropping by and moving your units around. offer her advice on why they should move in a certain direction or perform a certain action but LET HER DECIDE. It doesn't matter if you lose the game because of it. It's a learning experience.
Eventually, she'll be in or out.
Most importantly, do NOT press her on it, or you'll just be another gamer with a story about how he tried to get one of his ex-girlfriends to play 40K.
Last edited by MagickalMemories; August 3rd, 2006 at 06:19.
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