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I have a friend who plays WFB with me and the guy just can not stand to lose. As soon as a game starts to not be in his favor he concedes and then I have to talk him into continuining convincing him he could still win so he'll play a little longer however this goes on throughout an entire game. After he loses he'll often times throw his pieces around and just be overall cranky.
Now I don't play at the local hobby center very often because it's in a very crowded area where there is no parking but I would like to play with this individual so I ask: What do you do against sore losers who you play regularly? What kind of advice would you offer this player?
maybe invite him to play you at the hobby centre, because then if he has half a brain he will know he'll get chucked out if he throws models around. this will protect the models.
maybe ask one of the hobby staff at the centre to give him some advice before the game and maybe help him a bit if he starts to lose badly.
or even teach him yourself, give him advice or suggestions. If he's a know it all that wont accept help then this probably wont work! Ive had this problem myself and found that laughing at the said friend and stating that my kid brother acts more mature than him and he's 6! That embarresed him enough and i can safley say he now accepts defeat with a little more grace!
I've had alot of games with players just like that, the moment the game begins to go downhill for them they get all pissed off.
They've got a power player attitude, but neither the experience nor the army to back it up.
I've found the best thing that works to solve that kind of player is a 4-player, teams game.
Get a more experienced/relaxed player to be on his side, and let the game go as normal. Win or loose, the "bad looser" will usually let the better player lead and direct him (it's important to note: he'd better have a good tolerance for him as well) with little argument. He'll come out of the game with a good experience, due to the relaxed demeanor of the better player, and in later games you'll notice him trying to emulate that attitude.
It takes a couple of doses of those kinds of games to solve the issue. And if they get away from the game for a while, or start a new army, you'll have to do it again. Because they're usually under the impression that the new army, or time away, makes them a better player.
It's all about giving the grumpy gamer a good role-model. Usually, they're trying to be like those players who seem to win alot of games with seeming ease, but they simply don't have that level of experience. So they get frustrated when they can't perform at the same level by simply playing a similar force.
Happens all the time.
I beleive GW stores run megabattles and multiplayer games for that specific reason.
You don't want to look like a jerk/spoiled brat to someone you consider a peer, but you don't care about it if you think they're lesser than you or don't know them at all. I bet after loosing games they probably claim the other player is cheesy or has a cheap list.
It's one thing to give advice from across or outside the table, but, another thing entirely to give it standing on their side of things.
Then inform him that it's only a game, and with all things, practise makes perfect. Give him little tips/pointers/warnings, but not major ones so he wins the game (ie don't forget about unit X over there *wink wink*).
Ask him if he wants to try a different army. What does he play? It's possible that he just doesn't get on with them.
Finally tell him you just want to have fun, as playing games are fun. Tell him that him whining is making you very annoyed and making you not enjoy playing and that you feel that you are wasting your time (even if you don't feel that way).
Just my ideas.
EDIT: Just seen Carot's reply, which I completely agree with. One problem I can see is that the OP said he can't go to his local Hobby Store very often, which sorta ruins that idea.
In response to PaRaSiTe's edit about the player not getting to the hobby store very often:
He needs a friend close to home to play with as well. I'm certain someone had to introduce him to the game, but if he's a much younger player you can run into issues like "being grounded", or having parents that don't like his taste in friends.
Most of us take for granted that we've got good gaming groups and friends to play with, or have established a decent scheduel for trips to the store.
That kind of thing is hard for newer players to discover. Usually, they're not the type to invite others to play at their place, or to seek out players closer to them. It takes a good group of friends to really overcome that kind of thing in this hobby.
To be honest, none of us are really good at proclaiming our desire to play with others, or that we're available in our region for a game on a weekend.
Many of us don't even know how many people in our own areas play various wargames, or share similar hobbies. Just last week I discovered that one of the UPS drivers used to play warhammer before he moved, and I've seen him every other week for almost 3 years.
I can't really offer any advice for decently changing that scenario, outside of forming a gaming group in his area (which is alot of work, and further than you might be willing to go).
So, I guess, just try to keep it to team games when he's around, that should muffle his bad mood in a decent way, and will encourage him to come back more often. After all, would you go to a place where you thought everybody was being mean to you?
P.S. I appear to have ranted a bit on this subject. My appologies if I came off to harsh. It's one of those subjects I feel GW could help us all to avoid if they simply offered better community support. And I feel rather strongly about that one.
Thanks for the feedback you guys. Lot of good ideas and I think with a combination of all of them I can convince him.
I understand what you're saying Carot. I myself am new to the hobby and only have one mate to play within 'possible' distance. Hopefully soon I'll be able to go into my local GW at least once a week, but that might not happen.