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Before your all go looking at me like im a sexest ***** or that i hate women, please go easy on me because im a newb.
Now im only 16 and i havent really dated many girls but i feel like im talking to my family here so im gonna shoot from the hip.
Now i was going out with this girl (no names) so ill call her 'A', now from the first day she met me she had a crush on me, and i found out about it soon there after and we started dating. Now her best friend (ill call 'AM' went out with one of my friends while also having a crush on me and i didnt know until like 2 weeks into me and my first girlfriends relationship. So you know we did bf/gf stuff and hung out and chilled with 'AM' and eveyone, and for some reason 'A' thought i had feelings for 'AM' even tho i didnt, 'AM' couldnt keep her hands off of me (seriously, she s touched me more then ive ever touched myself) and yes i told her to stop and kinda tried to stay away from her and all,
'Am' broke up with me friend and then 'A' broke up with me because she thought i had feelings for her.
so yadda yadda yadda and then i ask 'AM' out and she insists that i go back out with 'A' cuz she was srry for assuming i had feelings for 'AM' so we go out again for like 3 days and she tells me she wants to break up with me (heres when the bull**** starts) because shes in a "Depression" and im like alright fine, and you know we're still friends and we talk alot on AIM and stuff but,
SOON after i found out from one of her friends that she spent two saturdays with someother guy because she thought i was cheating on her with 'AM' then my bull**** detector goes off, 'A' is lying about this "depression" thing because a week later she goes out with this stupid little 8th grader and im stuck alone.
i ask 'AM' out but she never answers me, but this other stupid little punk asks her out and she says yea, then she writes me a letter and quote "...then andrew asked me out, and like a moron, i said yes...." there was other luvy duvy stuff in there but im not sure its acctually true and im here asking my friends for any help, or words of advice because im really confused. Now i keep telling her if she really wants to go out with me she should break up with andrew and go out with me, and she really does but
1. Shes afraid of brakeing up with andrew(trust me if he tried to do anything id rip him limb from limb)
2. She keeps saying that shes to much of a loser to go out with me (EVEN tho she insists that she teaches dance class, is a professional trainer and other crap)
3. And because shes not sure she wants to go out with me or this other kid simon.
even tho she told me she doesnt have feelings for simon, then the next day she said she was just kidding around about that.
So im sitting here all confused, and asking for any words of wisdom or help and if this is kinda a waste of a topic or its a but confusing please tell me because my life couldnt get anymore worse.
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urm....gee man, i'm sorry for all of your troubles, but it seems to me that its just a game for "A" and for "AM" ...(you being the game like all other boys who would turn thier heads for a second to give attention)
like all other women out there, men are just stool for them to wipe thier butts with.
i've been married for four years now.......it doesnt get any better.
holiday jeer man.
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Listen, its a tough world. The 'AM' girl is doing what most girls (and guys) do and thats to keep her options open. And also getting an ego-boost by tying you and Simon and Andrew up in knots. Shes playing games with you, fairly elementary ones but there again, you are all still young.
Blow her out. Keep your options open, but retain your self-respect and go out with other girls. Dont set her ultimatums, but let her see you are having a good time, and that others can have a good time with you. She may yet come back to you, if you still want her when that happens.
Ryan Dancey, Vice President of Wizards of the Coast, believed that TSR failed because of "...a near total inability to listen to its customers, hear what they were saying, and make changes to make those customers happy." Are you listening, Games Workshop ?
Well I am sorry you are getting a raw deal from the girls in your life and I do mean girls because they are obviously not mature.
The fact that a lot of your information appears to come from a friend of a friend makes the entire situation needlessly complicated and headache inducing game of Chinese whispers that makes me very glad to have my teenage years behind me.
Generally asking people achieves much better results-
I mean the fact that you asked her friend out right after the two of you broke up is a little odd to say the least. The friend probably did not go out with you for the simple fact that you may spend time running down her friend and driving a wedge between them. How exactly is that so difficult to understand?
Depression does not have a minimum length it can come and goes pretty randomly especially with PMS as a factor
Oh and while I am here I feel I should rant about your subject title- Women and their bullshit? What about men and their bullshit?
I could rant for a page about how men have treated me badly and if needs be I shall!
Best word of advice man.
Dont put up with it. Alot of people on LO see me as an ass or a hard case, stuborn and easily angered. but I know what its like. Its the age catagory that does it. always at 16 this bullshit happens and people get hurt. do what i did, Forget about them both. obviously they arnt serious about anything with you man or they would have made up their mind by now. When I was 16 I didnt put up with those kind of head games. And im not being sexist but 16 year old girls are the worst for them. Alot of people (mainly woman) dont like hearing that because it rings a bit of truth (maybe not directed at them in particular but they have seen other girls pull it off) Maturity is a rare thing at that age. For guy or girl. Worst thing is when you get older you wonder why you put up with it and realize that that trying time in your life was relativly meaningless due to a lack of experiance. You wonder why it depresses/ticks you off so much but thats because you keep letting it happen. put a stop to that and quit trying with both. if they are going to lie and backstab you then they arnt worth it. And continuing down that road is just going to hurt you more and confuse the hell out of you. Besides 16 year old girls are Machiavellian (big word time - alternate meaning - Decietful, cunning). As long as they think they can fall back on you they will keep you on the sidelines as a backup. if you make yourself less "available" either they will change there mind and pursue you or leave you alone.
One other word of advice:
never go out with an ex's best friend. your in a world of hurt there and I have never seen it work out. Just setting yourself up for another fall bro
If you ever need advice man im there for you to talk to. Just Pm me bro
Much respect and sympathy
Rap masta G right here boy'a!
dis what ya got to do aight?
<pulls up his black leather coat>
YOU DONT TAKE NO SHIZZNIZZ! Your 16, leave girls, drugs and all that other stuff to your 20+ ok? Your a teenager, you don't need a GF or drugs. I'm one of the biggest losers in my school at 14 and I know alot of stuff idiots do. go to www.illwillpress.com and learn the words of foamy. You don't need this crap, next time a girl asks you out just say "No, I don't need to justify myself with another humans companionship"
Dudes in the backround with afros: FO'SHIZZLE!
and ill this crap about "im so cunfused" thats kind of your fault, even if a girls a girl give them the same respect you give any other person. Me I tell some girls to <bee beep> and guys go "dont freak up man!". So what if I do it to a guy its ok? BS!
Lots of girls do this cause half the girls I know are idiots and be half I mean most. Guys are just as bad. There all idiots and pretty soon I got to flip out again to put the fear back into these idiots!
Simple Form: DONT TAKE THIS CRAP NO MORE!
PS: Sorry mods and non-english personal I'm just trying to make a point through a losers eyes and turn my anger for stupid girls and guys like this into slang.
EDIT: Wait a second... you got a GF and are playing warhammer. OMG AHHHHHHHHH TO MUCH FOR THE BRAIN TO HANDLE! <explodes>
Alright mate listen up,I'ma let you in on somethin'. All this bullshit drama that you got goin' on..these girls created it on purpose. The mind of a 16 (or around that age) year old girl is a very *****ed up place. They desperately need attention (or that's what they think anyways),they strive for it,and all this drama is putting a lot of attention on them.The best thing you can do for yourself is to forget completely about the both of them and move on. You don't need that crap man, move one. Eventualy the attention will either get too much for them or they won't get as much as they want,and they'll come crawling back to you.I mean I can't even begin to explain or describe all the things that are running through thier heads while they do this, I mean teenagers are bad enough,but girls get hit with it even worse because they have more hormones gettin' pumped into thier brains,so I'll just leave it at "*****'em both..you can do better"
dude i play warhammer and i have had a lot of girl friends :glare:
girls dont care just dont bring it up around them.
when you are a teenager don't put emotions into a relationship. teenage relationships don't last. (i know it's hard but try)
go with the flow. accept that these things happen and its a inevitablity. when you in high school, all relationships should be do and dump (or get what you can out of them)
look back on it of what you have gained, and never close doors on your ex's. always be civil and polite. that way she has no reason to bad mouth you to her friends. if she bad mouths you, it's over. always break up as friends no mater how popular she is. it's a vicious circle and it will come back and bite you in the ass.
there are plenty of women out there. you will find them.
STAY AWAY FROM DRUGS. my friend was deppressed when his gf friend left him. omg he is now a total drugie and has changed, severly
no emotions, just sets you up for a big fall
accept that it was going to happen sooner than later
go as far with the girl as possible and have no regrets
always be polite to your ex (but never date them again)
be polite to ex's friends (they will think hes a nice guy, blank was absured for leaving him)
never bad mouth
dont sweat it if you break up. there are a lot of women out there
STAY AWAY FROM DRUGS (at all costs)
so good luck, and dont sweat it
pm me if you just wanna chat. bout anything
Well ummm i'm trying not to laugh at your stupid mistake, Listen to Edicius he has to be the master at dating... But i know a few things
TEEN LOVE NEVER LASTS YOU MORONS!!!!!!!!!! Sure i'm a teen but all my friends have had GFs and theyve only lasted 2 weeks.
I've only had 1 person ever ask me out and that was some little black girl thats younger than me, not meaning to sound racist but i denied her.
Chicks dig me and all, but most of them think i'm weird... I asked this one chick out she said no cause i was to weird, maybe i'm weird cause i hang around with a kinda goth kid.. :closedeyes:
Damn straight homies! Of course tau kill SOB then they go on a pantie raid
edicus says it best sometimes man....Originally posted by Edicius@Nov 27 2004, 00:31
Alright mate listen up,I'ma let you in on somethin'. All this bullshit drama that you got goin' on..these girls created it on purpose. The mind of a 16 (or around that age) year old girl is a very *****ed up place. They desperately need attention (or that's what they think anyways),they strive for it,and all this drama is putting a lot of attention on them.The best thing you can do for yourself is to forget completely about the both of them and move on. You don't need that crap man, move one. Eventualy the attention will either get too much for them or they won't get as much as they want,and they'll come crawling back to you.I mean I can't even begin to explain or describe all the things that are running through thier heads while they do this, I mean teenagers are bad enough,but girls get hit with it even worse because they have more hormones gettin' pumped into thier brains,so I'll just leave it at "*****'em both..you can do better"[snapback]258924[/snapback]
i am glad those years are behind me though, just hang in there and realize that you always have options.
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