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I don't know why I'm asking you guys, but, I'm asking a girl to go see a play at the JC.
I was wondering if any of you had any pointers.
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Be yourself, don't tr and be all "cool". If she asked you about your interests, tell her about Warhammer and the like.
If she dosn't like you just because of your uncool hobby, then she aint worthn the trouble.
I agree with Knape on that one. Be yourself and you will be fine.
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as said before, just be yourself.and cypher, nice signature by the way.
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ask out iv been rejected many a time, but definitely be your self and be comfortable or it wont work out!
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I am in agreement, be yourself because the last thing you want is for her to become attracted to a lie. And also, don't be nervous I understand it's difficult not to be, but do your best not to be.
Yeah, rejection is something you really shouldn't worry about, by the time you make it into your mid/late 20's you really don't care. Example: "Hey, you want to go out to dinner tonight?" "No..." *Turns around* "Hey, you want to go out to dinner tonight?"
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Hey Cypher19. I recall what that was like, approaching girls for the first time in highschool. It never went as well as I'd hoped, so stop worrying about how its going to be --- worrying will just trip you up.
The main thing that matters is confidence. Everyone always uses the cliche that your parents, especially your mom, will tell you: Just be yourself. That's good advice, but one of the hardest things to do and you likely won't even have a good clue as to who "yourself" is until you reach your 20's. That's just the way it is. Plus, not all girls will like "yourself", but as Knape97 said, if they aren't interested, they simply aren't worth your time. Believe in yourself enough that if she shoots you down, its not cause you're "not cool", and its not cause you should change something about yourself, its just because for whatever reason, she ain't interested. You can't help that whatsoever...could be because she doesn't know what she wants (you can't help her decide); could be because she's a snob (you can't help that either); or, it could simply be that your interests aren't similar (don't change yours, cause that's putting up a smokescreen - being false, and it ain't worth it no matter how you look at it).
The one thing I remember in detail when asking girls out is the fear. The stone-cold terror that they would say no, or I would make an ass of myself, or a thousand other things would go wrong. But then, you see that fear makes me worry, and worry made me screw up more. The way to make the fear go away is to see BEYOND asking her out. For many young teens, asking someone out, especially the first time, is probably one of the most important things in their life up to that point...you know what, life goes on, no matter what happens. If she says yes, great, you have a date. If no, then great, at least you tried and the next girl you ask out will be a little easier, cause you have more experience then you do now. And that's how you create confidence, the key ingredient that will make asking girls out easy --- experience.
Get as much experience as you can (I'm not suggesting you become a man-slut or something, just that you not be shy to ask someone out when you're attracted to them), and your confidence will improve. Promise.
P.S. Just some more advice from my own experience: Don't fall into the teenage trap of saying "you love her" too fast. It takes time to love someone - you have to get to know them. You might have an uber-crush on the girl, or she might be smoking hot, or you might think you already know her, but trust me, it ain't love till its been through the gauntlet. Good luck.
a play? at the j.c.? does she drink? mebbe you should ask her if she wants to go party or something. i'm pretty sure chivalry is dead. but you know her better than me, good luck!
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Rengaw might have a point.
Unless you know for sure that she likes that kind of thing, lay off the play as a first date. I don't know what you kids do for fun these days, but suggest something less specific, like going out to a movie, out to dinner at a restaurant better than McDonalds, or something else that you'd do with one of your friends (but please, for the love of God, don't ask her to come with you to a Warhammer tournament)
See, if you ask her out and she says yes, but you pick to do something she's not into, then you just made a date that she was otherwise looking forward to something that she's not so interested in all of a sudden. Adults have an easier time with this ("I was wondering if you'd like to go out for coffee/dinner sometime" is the tried and true staple), but asking a girl out to a coffee shop when you're 15 would be a little weird maybe.
Ahhhh the sweet sound of complete rejection, the first time i asked a girl out she laughed at me in front of all the "cool people" and i was crushed. I took out my fustrartion in the weight room/playing warhammer. Now i'm completly fine around women and can start and keep a conversation very easilly but when it comes to asking one out/telling one that i like her im 100% terrified and CAN'T do it. I will probably be scarred for life b/c of that first time, it was awful.................O yea ummmmm try not to be nervous (Y) (Y)
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