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Recent events in my household have convinced me to put up a topic about violent siblings and how to deal with them.
My brother and I were taking turns playing Counterstrike (we'd alternate every five games), and we use a cool little controller, much like an Xbox controller.
On my brother's fifth game, he died, after killing no one, and I said, "Maybe you should try aiming at them when you shoot," which led to him hurling the controller at me for my turn.
He claimed it was aimed for my crotch, but it instead hit me accross the eyebrow, and now I have a huge bruise and a cut on my head. This isn't the first thing he has thrown at me. The list includes pillows, a rather heavy alarm clock, fruit, and some of my ravenwing units.
Is there anyone else with this sort of problem?
Since I believe in non-violent approaches to these situations, I would appreciate anyone with experience in this sort of matter to comment with suggestions.
Yeah, unfortunately, there are many of us out here who have such a problem. I'm resolving mine by moving out of the house (Im 21, done with college, so its time to go anyway). Unfortunately, in my experience, aside from leaving, there isnt a non-violent response to this type of aggression. The problem that you're witnessing is your brother trying to assert his dominance over you, and since he doesnt feel he has the wit to respond to your sarcasm/wit, he responds with his fists or throwing stuff. Im not going to get into the psychological stuff here, but if just sitting down and talking with him about the concerns does help, the only thing he may understand is a smack back across the face.
I know this isn't the kind of advice you wanted to hear, but trust me, it might be the only thing that will work. For years my younger brother used to hit me, throw things at me, etc etc. He's only stopped recently cause after the last incident (a thrown shoe right to the nether regions), I laid him down with a full punch to the gut. I think that this entire incident happened right in front of his friends helped, but at any rate, things have calmed down to the point where he just tries to insult me instead of throwing physical attacks.
I'm the oldest of seven boys. Sometimes you just gotta smack a ***** and that will settle it. I thought I was gonna kill one of my brothers once, that poor bastard just pushed me too far that night. :rolleyes:
You also have to watch what you say and how you say it with younger siblings. If he's having a hard time at a game, then it's better to say something like: "You'll get em all next time" or something that will make him feel better.
Ok, here's something else to ponder: He's older than me.
Despite this, I happen to be stronger than him, so beating him up isn't much trouble, except that my parents love him more because he has urrets and OCD.
Just a couple of minutes ago, I gave him a tremendous tittie-twister that sent him into screams. My mom actually came to find out what was wrong, because she thought he was being seriously hurt.
Well I haven't got any brothers but my cousin jumped on my groin when I was sleeping once and that really pissed me off...I wanted to kill the little ****.
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You've got to give off the Fair/Badass vibe. Like, "I'm not gonna waste my time on you, but if you mess with me..." If your not big, strong or fast enough to actually accomplish this then don't. Go for tauntings, stealing, or destruction. Or humiliation.
My sister and I violently fought until she 17 and I, 9. We just got sick of it. Now she actually invites me to get high and hang out with her friends.
The reason we stopped then is because by that time we had no advantage. She was/is 5' and mean, and I was 5'6" and crazy. I accidently hurt her enough and her intentionally her me, that it became pointless.
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Originally Posted by Ezekiel1990
An entirely untrue assumption, but the very fact that you think this way tells me that your family has much bigger problems then you and your brother hitting eachother. Violence among siblings is not a major thing. All siblings fight, even me and my siblings fought on a few rare occasions and we're practicly famous for how much we stick together and how well we get along. It's nothing to be worried about. When you spend that much time with somebody there's going to be tension. The only problem here is if this sort of thing happens several times a day; then your brother has some serious problems that you and your family need to seek help for. This is assuming that your brother is the one starting most of the conflict. For all I know you could be the problem. Maybe you make too many comments like the one that caused him to throw the controler. Regardless of who's causing the problems I wouldn't worry about it unless it becomes a constant thing, then you need to talk some things out with your family.
Siblings are younger brothers/sisters.Originally Posted by Ezekiel1990
My Brother tends to get uppity unless I smack him down every now and again he seems intent at the moment at being as big an anoyance as possible.
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One of two or more individuals having one or both parents in common; a brother or sister.
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i tend to punch my older sister (lightly) on the nose/ in the face. I don't actually punch her, it just gives her a shock. she realises that i purposly didn't give her a nose bleed (sorry if i sound vain), and she tends to stop. It may be out of fear, respect or gratitude. I don't know.