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Girl Problems; what else is new?Siiiigh. Well, let's just start this entry off with the fact that I've never really had a successful relationship. The most successful one, I'd say, was an online relationship that lasted four years; while that sounds like something, it was more of a close friends type of thing. I only met the girl, in real life, twice in those four years; and while we're not together anymore, we're still close friends. As far as local dating goes, I'm not too good at it. Or something. I've had a few girlfriends, and the longest they've lasted is maybe a week. There was one, and almost still is one (though she was recently sent to a boarding school, unfortunately) whom I lasted a bit longer with. We were almost completely opposite to eachother, and we hardly ever hung out, but when we did it made everything okay.
I feel for you buddy. Heck, I've only had a girlfriend once-and I didnt realize it 'till she dumped me!
it could be worse, my best relationships have been pathetic, one was with a girl who thought of me as her brother (and then she started dating my brother......), another was with a girl who was giving it to everyone but me because I was such a good friend, and then there were a couple more "brother" ones
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Ahh l'amour... *blows love heart shaped smoke ring*
"You challenge me knowing that I am Xiahou Dun!?"
i hate it when girls say they wont date you because "youre too good a friend." Isnt that what is supposed to be? i have had absolutely no luck with girls.
Here is my question - did she say she wouldnt go out with you?
(am i being dense?)
If you feel like that, my advice would be to talk to her about it
Hell, ask her out. If you dont, you may regret it.
(back when i was in school my friends would do this, to which i would wave my arms round like a madman, cooing "ask her out" day in, day out, untill they stopped moaning to me about it and DID something about it - i cant stand indecision)
Hell, it worked!
My come uppance came when i went out one night - met the "nerdy girl from the year below" i had known of her for around 10-12 years. As the night progressed, we really got on.
However, i fell into the pitfall of not being able to ask her out. So after a while my friends all pulled my trick on me. around 3 days later i asked her out!
(note: i did accidentally say to her the day before i asked her out "i love you" to which she laughed in my face then walked off - if a woman does this, apparently its not always a bad thing - she later explained (after i asked her out) that she did it to make me feel better)
Apathy is its own reward...
Well Lost i can only offer morale support as i've never had that problem as i'm currently on my seventh girl friend and hell i'm not even a (the word starts with V ,ends with N and has six letters in it) anymore!
To much info i'm sorry i'll go now!
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When did I realise I was God?
Well one day I was praying and I realised...
I was talking to myself!
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I realize that it is very easy for me to say this on the outside but i think you should just go for it. Really whats the worst that could happen...she says no. So what? Life goes on. If that is a little too much like tough love then I'm sorry however think of it this way: you only live once. I suggest that when you come home (if you aren't all ready home) tell her how you feel and see if she feels the same way.
I have had the same problem with a person that was a close friend. Now she is gone and i regret never having done something about it. I still talk to her on the internet but that's all. Trust me the feeling of a never having asked is worse than the week of sorrow that you have if she says no. Also make clear that if she says no or she breaks up or you break up with her that you make sure you are still friends.
I know all of this sounds kind of errogant but you have to realize that everyone has trouble finding the words, even girls! Maybe she feels the same way. I have problems doing exacly what i'm telling you to do. There are some people that maybe i could have asked 'out' but quite frankly i'm too busy with school. Once things start dying down i am going to ask some people 'out' because of the forementioned things.
Mr. Burns: Why is everyone being so insolent today?
Smithers: Well sir, it is christmas...
Mr. Burns: I'll decide when its christmas!
I appreciate the support, guys, but the problem is basically that I'm not certain she'd say no, exactly; I think she'd say it'd be awkward/weird, me being her brother's best friend and all of that. I don't know.
I understand the "only live once" idea, and I actually suggest it to others; I just have trouble getting to do it myself.
I guess my biggest fear is to alienate her by "coming out" to the point where we don't talk too much; I'd rather just have her as my friend and not do anything, than to do something and lose her as the close friend that she is.
That being said, I still couldn't stop thinking about her today. It's incredibly strange. I was walking around NYC (the place gives me horrible vibes..) and I'd just randomly let my thoughts stray, and naturally, they'd stray to her.
I'm not usually so obsessive in thinking about her ... I think maybe my feelings/"heart" realised something that my mind is still trying to come to grips with, I dunno.
I'm going to go out on a limb, and advise you to not go through with it. Two reasons why -and....Originally Posted by Lost NemesisOr am I misunderstanding and those are two different girls?Originally Posted by Lost Nemesis
Doesn't really matter, I don't think. It's dangerous territory, getting involved with your best friend's sister. I've done it - and it almost cost me the friendship. Looking back, I realize now that I much prefer the company of my best friend than the company of his sister.
In any case, all anyone can offer you is advice. It's your choice on what to do. The best advice is the stuff your heart and gut give you - listen to them. They're hardly ever wrong.
And hey, when they are wrong? They heal.