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Ok this is a questions for the males over 22ish or so who have had steady girlfriends for over a few years...
... I do realize there is most likely just 1 of you out there.
(I keed I keed.)
Does yours ever get pissed off at you and clean the house like it is killing me, one molecule of dirt at a time?
Of course little do they realize that all I do is get a clean house out of the deal...
As a veteran of a number of long term steady relationships, yes, I agree. I always thought it was funny. I hate cleaning bathrooms, (especially the tub, I'm old, have bad knees, all that kneeling is painful). Well, a number of times, the GF would get so upset with me she would scrub that tub mercilessly, until it sparkled. And then she would stomp out the door with a look of "that'll teach him won't it". I never did understand that.
Oh, well, this could be why I am divorced and currently single.
A little pain never hurt anyone - Larry
Unfortunately for me my girlfriend is very messy. Messier than I am.
She won't wash up or touch anything "gross" so I have to do all that. She does tidy things though. When she is angry she picks up all the books, papers, CDs, DVDs, etc that are lying around and puts them very firmly and angrily into their places. So yeah I see what you mean...
The cleaning thing is a gift. We get all the benefits, and we can still tease them for it.
If you're saying it only happens when you argue, well, that is an interesting habbit. I would have to say no, I haven't found them connected before.
The cleaning thing is just stimming, we all do it when we get upset. It allows us to focus and forget.
It's not just relationships either. Today, I was annoyed with some friends of mine, so I just studied solidly in the library for several hours on my own. I didn't really have anything to do, either. So I just revised the same things over and over again.
It's not about getting the house clean or pleasing anyone, it's about feeling in control. If we excercise control over one aspect of our lives, it helps us feel less powerless. Personally, I'd just let her do it, and don't question it. We all have our quirks.
Then again, you can ignore my opinion, because I'm not married/steady.
Last edited by The_Giant_Mantis; November 30th, 2005 at 18:46.
Exactly. We all have our ways of dealing with things. Shooting and cleaning are pretty different, but they're just different ways of dealing with the same feelings of anger and insecurity (not insecurity as in 'I've just bought a massive car' insecurity, perhaps instability would be a better word.) When you're doing them, you don't have to think about anything else, you don't have to be social, and you're in an environment where you have a high degree of control.Originally Posted by urbanknight
Me, I study, or play computer games.
Last edited by The_Giant_Mantis; December 1st, 2005 at 01:05.