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I go to a very small private school and it seems like half the time, all i hear is people talking shit about each other. Everyone seems to hate someone (i even get shit from people). It even goes further to people blatenly embarassing others in public and being plain mean in front of thier faces.
Its starting to piss me off. Why do people feel the need to hate each other? Shouldn't everyone just love thier fellow man, despite what problems they have. I'm not saying people should like everyone, but do people really have to go as far as hating each other?
What is it about human nature that cuases this? Perhaps its a primal instinct to get ahead of the compitition by making them look bad(to make yourself look better). Maybe its just to get attention from friends or get a cheap laugh. Does it make some people feel empowered or less upset about thier own lives to put people down? It just seems that people have some natural capacity of hating each other.
Its not just in small schools like mine. Its everywhere. You can not like someone, but do you really have to harass them and make them feel bad about themselves?
Your feelings, people....
That is not dead which may eternal lie,
for in strange aeons even death may die.
Yes, you do. Sadly, it's a consequence of Darwinian evolution. Natural selection favors those individuals who harass and belittle others. In the rear seat of their daddy's Land Rovers, they sweat and moan, passing on their genes to future generations of crotch wipes.
When a person finds himself the victim of such mindless blatherskite, the only solution is to join the enemy. Simply find some hapless schmo who's farther down the evolutionary scale than one's self and make him wet his knickers at least once a week.
To attempt a serious answer, I don't know the reason. Doubtless, there's been research of some sort or another, and we can all conjecture freely. One thing I have learned from educational research is that bullies don't pick on other people because they themselves experience inferiority. Quite the opposite, they really do think they're "all that."
What I've learned in my time is to simply not give a flying :hump: . Almost all of those people who were big shots in the school setting (which is the primary social scene of every child in any first world nation) turned out to be pricks as adults who didn't interest me in the least. Why their opinion mattered to me back then, I'll never know.
To be fair, some of those people turned out really cool, which was nice to see. And I have to admit that I tried bullying, too, and it always made me feel guilty. I immediately knew that I had been a jackass to someone.
I've been a nerd all of my life, and I bet a lot of people on these boards can relate to this. Smart, not particularly athletic, and as skinny as a beanpole, I over time became ostracized by former friends as we passed through the grades and social status meant more. Without really thinking about it, I befriended kids like myself and had a blast.
We collected comic books (one of us actually had a first edition of TMNT! :w00t: ) and pretended to be various members of the X-Men on the playground monkey bars. The ideal slumber party involved hordes of Star Wars toys and vicious sock fights.
Those popular, mean kids were somewhere else, having their own party, I suppose. I don't know what they did. Maybe they smoked stolen cigarettes and talked about the girls they'd French-kissed.
As a teenager, this pretty much continued, but at this point, I didn't care. I could tell they were arseholes, so why bother? Anyone who got his kicks making others feel puny wasn't worth my time and never will be. Now they were off having drunken parties whenever someone's parents left town and crapping out with their academic work.
But one thing I do know is that when I saw them years later as adults, most of them hadn't changed that much. Don't get me wrong, they weren't mean and bullying necessarily. They were still shallow and not very interesting, and their opinion no longer mattered to me.
The people at the game store and my current weird assortment of friends are really quite interesting, and I like them a lot. I bet many of you have friends like this, too.
Here's the kicker, Kossolax_the_Foresworn, you may never get those hopeless gits to understand anything I've said, and if that is indeed the case, then you can always kicking them in the 'nads.
lol, I figured someone would mention that. has some truth in it.Yes, you do. Sadly, it's a consequence of Darwinian evolution. Natural selection favors those individuals who harass and belittle others. In the rear seat of their daddy's Land Rovers, they sweat and moan, passing on their genes to future generations of crotch wipes.Understandable, got to keep with the pack.nly solution is to join the enemy.Always a barrel of fun!girls they'd French-kissedPersonally i don't give a rats ass if someones a jackass to me, doesn't really make me feel bad. worst case scenerio i'll get real pissed and try to start a fight with them. Really, it just makes me sad to see other people be constantly harrassed. I am usually try to not judge people, so i don't get what people get out of being cruel.Here's the kicker, Kossolax_the_Foresworn, you may never get those hopeless gits to understand anything I've said, and if that is indeed the case, then you can always kicking them in the 'nads.
thanks for the answer
That is not dead which may eternal lie,
for in strange aeons even death may die.
It could be to do with the way they were raised, to believe that they're the center of the universe or just so brilliant. There seems to be a size thing too, I mean, you very rarely see a short or skinny bully, they're usually giant hulking monsters of eternal peril so I think that has a part to play, I mean, it makes them think that they're more of a person, more important etc... Also, just because they can, it makes them feel better, it makes them look better to their peers. I think that often people just don't think about it, they're not in a state of full awareness, they don't put themselves in the other person's shoes first. Maybe it's to show off how hard-core they are or maybe their just jealous of the geeky group's brains.
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Kids, teens, and even adults, will be cruel and nasty to anyone they think they can get away with being cruel and nasty to. It's human nature. There's nothing you can do to change this, it just happens.
School has always, and always will be, a difficult time. The little asshats are going through major physical and emotional changes, and quite simply aren't ready for them. Depression therefore is a rather common side effect of puberty. Apparently the easiest way to feel better about yourself, is to make sure someone else feels worse than you do.
There is one situation that is worse than just the stock standard student's, and that is the situation of the student who has a parent teaching at their school. It's even worse for them. They are always considered to be Narcs, even if they aren't, they are always considered to be brainiacs, even if they aren't, and worst of all, teacher's pets. I had a difficult time in this situation, even more so when my father actually taught a class I was taking; but I have survived (perhaps not well, but I'm not dead or in jail....yet)
The thing you have to remember, is that after school is over, and the jocks (and popular kids) are working in their crappy car yards/retail outlets, the "rejects" will be thriving (and possibly making a fortune) in the real world because they understand the real world in a way that the jocks and popular kids never have - the world is a cruel, nasty place.
I hate to raise Bill "Satan's Mentor" Gates up as an ideal, but he was never going to be a popular kid, and now he's the richest asshat in the world.
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Its sad to see how something like this happens everywhere.(
As it happens I seem to be going through the beginnings of this stage at the moment , and at least in my view it seems to be slightly different here. At least for me, I seem to be fairly lucky for some reason. I am totally nonathletic, I mean I think I have gone to 3 sport practices in my life, but I seem to be doing ok in this respect at the school. I have my core group of friends, and I am friendly with a lot of people ( Except for this one group, all wannabe tough guys ). Maybe it hasn't gotten so bad because the girls and boys have been keep separate classes so far, who knows.
But to me, there are those few kids who are teased badly, either they don't talk in class at all, care too much about school or just act different and they are teased, I find it quite sad really.
As a sad matter of fact, I can't claim innocence of these, but I have no been overly harsh to them, I am friends with some of them also.
They only thing to remember, is once all this high school business is over, noone will really care about how popular you were, or if you were teased. The only that really matters is if you
learn't anything from it. As for the social aspect of it, as long as you have your friends they
are all you need after high school , you won't care about Mr . Jock or anything. I think it is all an attempt to get yourself to look better.
Didn't Bill Gates say " Be kind to nerds, they will be your boss one day"
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General thing is people get more satisfaction from insulting others (and through that feeling superior) than they do being nice.
Its simple human nature.
You know, I too deal with this problem a lot. Especially since my move into North Carolina, and regtrettaby an even harsher and semi-segregated Wake County. I don't know why this happens, all I know is that it does. The best I can say to you, is that sometimes the world is indeed fair, and the best I can do is to be strong, and not be one of those people. Some days it will feel useless, but it's always up to you to be the best person you can be. You can show people how to be, and you have the ability to make them understand how horrible it feels. I guess my best thing is - be the best person you can be - that's all anyone can ask of you.
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One thing I have learned is to not give a shit. Let them do what the want. Get some thick skin if it annoys you. If you come to my school you probably wouldn't survive one day for the number of times people make fun of each other. Which isn't good I live in a neighorhood where cool is the only thing that matters so if you don't act hard your are considered lame and will be made fun of. I try to stay in the middle.
But another thing I have also learned is if society never made fun of each other wouldn't everyone's faces look like this . People have there own tastes of people and if you don't like them that is what they do. But the other reason might be because they are jelouse of you. Which is not the case where I live it is the popularity thing.
People are fickle like that at my school too, bad mouthing the very best of their friends when they aren't around. I was quite perplexed when someone was asking: "Why does no one hate me?" I guess they just want to have the feeling of power over someone.
I'm glad its illegal to have weapons on your person, or I would have stabbed/shot a whole lot of people by know for being utterly hateful morons.
At least our own online community does not seem to have this problem. I like nice people like you guys, nice people are nice. ^_^
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