17 and 14 year old?

I meet my girlfriend when I was a Junior 16 and she was a Freshmen 14. We have been together for almost 2.5 years now. Age didn't matter to me really, however I got all these jokes from my family that I'm a cradle robber.

My warning is, if you are going to do anything "illegal", just make sure either no one finds out, or you have some cool people to cover you. My folks are awesome, they didn't care what we did, because we both love each other, her parents on the other hand are keeping themselves out of the conversation. Kind of blind to the truth, but it suits me, no bullets in my back. ^.^

However, I never had to worry about legal or illegal, where I live it was legal for a long time, then when I turned 17, I had to wait till she turned 15 before we could to anything again, which wasn't more then a month or so. So, I'm all legal and clean.

Come now, guys, there’s no need to get angry over this. Maturity depends more on one’s personality and past experiences that it does on one’s age. I don’t think Brother Ares was directing an attack on you personally, LordMortis, nor on pre-high schoolers in general. Ignoring his generalising and I admit rather condescending comment would be the mature thing to do in this case.

As for the original question, I must admit it had me thinking for a while. My first impression was that the difference in age would be more troublesome than it was worth; apart from the social and legal ramifications, which as said by others can be quite serious, I wonder if the relationship in itself will be as healthy and fulfilling as a relationship should be. A three-year age difference means little to adults, but teenagers are in a state of constant change and three years is a wide gap to overcome during those chaotic teen years. I don’t think I could have done it, to be honest; it would have meant dating someone younger than my own little sister, and at the time that would simply have been inconceivable to me.

However, love is love, and if you really do care about this girl I see no reason why you can’t work out the problems in your relationship that might be caused by the age difference. You only need to keep in mind the problems it may cause socially and legally; being the oldest and most experienced in the relationship (to avoid using the word ‘mature’ ) it largely falls to you to deal with these issues. She is only 14, and as a minor she will be held unaccountable for her actions legally and often also socially.

And finally, a plea: if you do date her, and you want to do anything *cough* illegal, please be careful. Don’t push her, and remember to protect yourselves. Again, being the oldest, make sure you protect both of you; an accident at her age will have the most serious repercussions on both of you. :hmm:

~Greph.